My Story

I have long believed that we all have it in our abilities to help and heal ourselves through life's challenges. It is a fundamental fact of life that none of us live without any bumps in the road and we all have to rely on our personal strength at some point or another to get through it. I also believe that all of us benefit from the resource of having a third party to speak to during those times, and that being able to struggle through does not mean having to. Life’s worst moments only usually give us lemons once - and if - we process what’s happened. It is invaluable to have someone who will listen to you without any judgement - our friends and family have biased opinions even if they are good ones - to whom you can truly share absolutely everything with because they just get it, and who can bring a new perspective that relieves your pain and accelerates your healing when you need it most. 

We will all ultimately get over the breakups we experience, but how well we get over them and the narrative we take away from it separates those who will go on to find a new healthy relationship relatively easily, and those who will find themselves repeating patterns and facing similar problems in future relationships. Often many times over. Because until we know ourselves and our patterns, we can’t really change them. I repeated my own painful mistakes several times over before I really explored the ‘why’.

I deliver my programme knowing that my client is absolutely capable and able to overcome what they are experiencing and that, together, we’ll get to a point where the problem they bring to me feels like a lifetime ago by the end session. If this is you, we will replace the story/ies you are beating yourself up with (hint: the most negative, painful story you are ruminating on is rarely the truest one) and that equips you to move forwards with a sense of reality and healthy self esteem, so that your next relationship (hint: there will be one, I know you think there won’t be, but there will if you want one) is one you don’t fall into or chase, but choose for all of the right reasons. We start by relieving the pain which I know is totally consuming you currently, and by the end you’ll know yourself so much better and feel excited about where you’re going next.

How do I know all of this? Because I’ve been there, I enrolled with a Breakup Coach at a point in my life when I had zero clarity and a very painful perspective on why I believed my breakup happened. I have always been pro therapies and coaching (do both if you can) and have always sought it when to feel better, I need to understand better. I loved and benefited from the breakup programme I did so much, I re-trained, left a career in marketing, and now work full time through my online practice. I am qualified as an Integrated Attachment Theory Coach (this basically means I’ve studied relationships, attachment styles, neuroscience and a method of coaching that combines that knowledge) and I work exclusively with women, based anywhere in the world.